How to Reach Out
Postpartum depression can make you feel alone, but when you don’t know how to talk
about it with those close to you, it can feel incredibly isolating. The Mothers' Nest
wants you to know above all that you are not alone. This is not because of anything you did or
didn’t do. There are others out there with your same struggles, and we are here to support you on this journey. Though we are just a message away. We also know it is difficult to feel like you
can lean on the support of your own family or significant other because you don’t know what
As women, we want to reach out to those closest to us--be it a spouse or a close friend. It
doesn’t matter who you are going to first. What matters is that you are going to someone you
trust and breaking a window in the wall of isolation your mind has built. Find a time you feel
comfortable and in a casual setting. Maybe once the kids are in bed and the adults are finally
getting time to wind down before bed themselves.
Start with something like “I’ve had some things on my mind lately. Can we talk about
them?” Tell them you haven’t been feeling like yourself lately and wait for their response. If they
respond well, this is a good time to go into more depth about the symptoms of postpartum mood or anxiety disorder you have been experiencing and examples of times they may have seen you experiencing them. It is important for them to know this, so they can try to better understand and find ways to help. If you need help explaining things even more in depth or in a different way, you can direct them to our website or an online article or video you may have seen.
If they have responded well to your conversation and are willing to help you, use their
support. Sometimes we know we need help, but we don’t know with exactly what. Try to
brainstorm a list and be as specific as possible. If you know you need to find a doctor but feel
completely overwhelmed, ask for help. Something as simple as “I need to make a doctor’s
appointment. Could you help me find one in our area?” If an actual appointment makes you feel
uneasy, ask for them to come with you for support. Asking for help doesn’t need to be only for
“big” things. If there is a moment you feel overwhelmed and need a moment to practice self-care
to re-center yourself, ask them to hold or feed the baby so you can take a shower or take a few
minutes to listen to your favorite music- whatever your self-care of choice is. Know they are
there to help on this journey.
If they do not respond well, know it is not a negative reflection on you. Know that it is
okay, and encouraged, to reach to another person. You can always contact The Mothers' Nest,
or call a support line. Just because one person doesn’t respond well doesn’t mean it will be the same with everyone. Do not give up. You deserve to overcome this, and you will.
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